10 Reasons why Arranged Marriages Work in India
One might wonder even when India is progressing, globalization is in the air, why Indians are still stuck to the concept of arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are selected by a third party (generally the parents) rather than by each other. It was common worldwide until the 18th century. In more recent times, arranged marriage is common in India and few other countries. Here are 10 Reasons why arranged marriages work in India.
Marriage: A delicate balance between two families
When you marry someone, you don't just let that one person into your life, you let their whole family into your life and similarly your whole family enters theirs. In case of arranged marriage, the couple would get support of the family in times of crisis. They also don't suffer from the guilt of deserting their families which is one of the primary flash points in a love marriage.
According to research, those in arranged marriages – or who have had their partner chosen for them by a parent or matchmaker – tend to feel more in love as time grows, whereas those in regular marriages feel less in love over time. Relationship experts claim this is because arranged matches are carefully considered, with thought going into whether potential partners’ families, interests and life goals are compatible.
A Certain Level of Equality
Equality when it comes to education, finances and world view. Since families do the matching, they tend to go for partners who are of equal stature. This starts the relationship on equal footing and things can build from there.
The Win-Win Situation
Marriages arranged by parents and families are not all based on the whims of the young couple. So, there is no impulsive marriages and thereby no dreadful divorces. This is one the main reasons why statistics show the divorce rate of 1.1% in India.
Financial security plays an important role. The groom/bride in arranged marriage would definitely have the potential to take care of all the needs and requirements. Every family wants their son/daughter to be part of a good family.
Reasonable time to discover each other
In arranged marriages, more often than not, after the parents decide about the compatibility of both families, the concurrence and opinion of their children is taken about their partners.Typically they are also permitted to meet and interact with each others so it's not that the spouses discover each other post-marriage.
The Commitment to Stay Attached
There are three attraction centres in our brain. One for lust, second for romantic love, and the third for attachment. Arranged marriages are designed to eliminate one and two. The commitment to stay attached to the partner makes up for lust or love.
In an arranged marriage, the belief system of the people involved is an extrapolation of their parents. Their long term vision and expectations are in sync with their parents. And their support system is more extrinsic than intrinsic.
Excitement and Novelty
In arranged marriage, there is an excitement and novelty which lasts for at least a couple of years post-marriage which may be missing in love marriages.
India has diverse culture, language, traditions, and food habits. A love marriage usually means life style change for the couple. While in arranged marriage all basic things are socially compatible.
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